First Communion and First Confession

Parents have shared the gift of human life with their children and, through Baptism, have enriched them with a share in God’s own life. They have the duty to nourish it. Catechesis for the Sacraments of Reconciliation and of the Eucharist is provided in the 2nd Grade of elementary schooling. Parents, guided by the Director of Children’s Ministry in alignment with the pastor, participate in sacramental catechetical programs for their young children.


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Program Description

At the Church of Saint Mary, our Sacramental Preparation Program for Reconciliation and Holy Communion supports the parents as the first person to form their children. These Sacramental Preparation programs encourage parents to embrace their role as the primary teacher of the faith.  The catechists help the parents to understand this as their role, and assist and encourage the parents so that they can do it effectively.

At the same time, most parents receive some help in learning more about their faith.  Many may not have had any kind of faith formation since they were children.  The programs help the parent to understand and relate their lived experience of faith in order to pass it on to their child.  Simple goals and suggested activities are tools that enable parents to pass on their faith, and give parents ideas of where and how to start.

Educational resources help parents by helping them learn where to find answers for particular situations. Sometimes that “resource” may be a staff member or volunteer catechist at the parish.  Online resources or book suggestions are given to supplement the lesson being taught.

Finally, parents really benefit from a supportive community of other parents and guardians.  Parents coach each other: sharing ideas, brainstorming, and giving each other encouragement.



Requirements for First Reconciliation & First Communion
  • As a general rule, children celebrate the Sacraments during the 2nd grade
  • Older children who missed the Sacraments in the 2nd grade are invited to participate
  • Child must be baptized Catholic. Copy of Certificate of Baptism is required if not Baptized at the Church of Saint Mary to enroll in the Sacramental Preparation Program.
  • Child must celebrate the Sacrament of Reconciliation before receiving First Communion, per the guidelines of the Diocese of Tulsa
  • Child and family must be attending Mass regularly
  • Child’s family must be registered parishioners of the Church of Saint Mary or attending the School of Saint Mary (if you belong to another parish, written permission from the pastor to participate in our program is required).
  • Child must have had at least one year of formal Religious Education in a parish RE program, school program or formal homeschool program before beginning Sacramental Preparation
  • If child has not had any prior, formal Religious Education, the child should be enrolled in a first grade Religion class and delay the Sacrament until next year
  • Child must currently be enrolled in and attending a 2nd grade or higher religion class, either in a Catholic school or in the parish Religious Education program as well as the Sacramental Preparation classes.
  • Child and parent must together attend 6 Sacramental Preparation sessions for each Sacrament (Reconciliation and Communion).
  • In addition, child must attend a retreat day prior to each Sacrament. These retreats will be held at the Church of Saint Mary and will be parent-directed under the leadership of the program director
  • Only two absences from class are allowed for each Sacrament (lessons are made up at home for absences)



September 22 and 25 Week 1: Baptism the first of the three Sacraments of Initiation:  What did you promise when you had your child baptized, are you the PRIMARY teacher of your child’s faith?

September 29 and Oct. 2  Week 2: Precepts of the Church:…why so many Rules? Do you teach your children to love what their Faith teaches or are you teaching them to pick and choose?

  • Receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation at least once a year
  • Receive The Eucharist during the Easter Season
  • Do penance on appointed Days (Fasting and Abstinence)
  • Contribute to the support of the Church (not just money but time and talent)

October 13 and 16 Week 3:10 Commandments, Deadly Sins and the Examination of Conscience and how the 10 Commandments and the Beatitudes should be used when examining one’s conscience. Break a Commandment and if the reason matches a deadly sin, that’s a mortal one!  What is a sin of OMISSION and a sin of Commission?

October 27 Week 4 Sunday ONLY, Lunch with the Saints after the 10:30 Mass

November 3 and 6 Week 5:  Making a GOOD Confession:  What needs to be in my heart and soul?  What is a priest responsibility in this Sacrament?

November 10 and 13 Week 6:  Where does the Sacrament of Reconciliation come from?  Why can just a priest hear your Confession and pardon your sins, why can’t you just tell them to God directly?  Why don’t protestants do some of this stuff?



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2 thoughts on “First Communion and First Confession

  • July 19, 2019 at 11:05 am

    How do I access the First Holy Communion Individual and group photos that were taken on 5May2019. I would like to purchase or copy it ,if necessary. Thank you


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